Why don’t I care what people think about me?

Lot of people are occupied with the idea of if and why people like or dislike them. It matters to them to be popular and find ways to be popular. For large part it is what society expects people to want. Why couldn’t I care less what people think of me?

It is worth clarifying what I am talking about. I of course care about what some people think about me such as my wife, my sons, my parents, my brother, my sister-in-law, my nephews and 2 or 3 other people. So probably somewhere between 15 and 20 people in total. As for the rest of the world I couldn’t care less if I tried. When I argue with someone online about politics, religion or anything else then it doesn’t really bother me what they think of me. I have been called all kinds of names and I couldn’t really care.

Why is it that I couldn’t care about other people’s opinion of me? Am I anti-social? Maybe arrogant? Practical?  Emotionally detached? With healthy self confidence? Or something totally different?

It is probably mostly laziness as caring about what other people – people you don’t know – think of you takes up lot of energy. Wasting time and energy on thinking of what other people might think of you is not the best approach. It is best to try to engage people in the discussion of ideas which sometimes will lead you, if you are logical and open minded, to change your mind and see that you were wrong or to modify your idea based on constructive dialogue. It matters what people think of ideas, proposals, points of view and how our future should be. It does not matter who suggested it or who has argued for or against it in the past.

Hopefully we will see more logical approach in the coming year. A year of solution oriented approach instead of focusing on why we have a problem and who bears the blame for it. It is important to remember and learn from history but not to let it stand in the way of doing the right thing.

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